According to Wordnet of Princeton University, stereotype is defined as a conventional or formulaic conception or image. In other words that labeling thing we do when we see a group of people, a painted image, perceived by the society onto a certain group of people to behave in a certain way.
Like a Malay is usually lazy and stupid.
Or a Chinese eats pork and in unable to pronounce the letter R.
Or an Arab only eats tokmeyyah and cannot provide excellent service.
And, like any other common man, I too succumbed into this shallow system practiced by the society which in a way limits our interaction with each other. I myself prefer not to be involved with someone that smokes, because I imagine those who smoke as the type that is self-centered, shallow and fake.
So I limit my contact with these types of people, of which now I find it stupid and ignorant. I cannot imagine those who I labelled as 'bad people' think the way I think, interested in the stuff that I'm interested in, and love the same thing that I love.
I ask myself, why can't I treat them the same way I treat 'my kind'? Am I better than them? No. Am I too good for them? No. Am I that perfect to perceive myself as the 'good people'? No.
Didn't God made us imperfect, so imperfect which makes us like a giant jigsaw puzzle, without each other, we are frail and incomplete?
Yes, I may be better in some way. I am, too, with flaws only God knows how much. The point is, I can never imagine that this guy, to be exact, cares like I care. He reads the news like I do, he evaluates the pros and cons like I do. Maybe, he cares more than I can ever be.
Who am I to judge?
***:G eh nk tanya ni
***G: skang ko pcm ek
***G: ak ingat nk join la..under bahagian pendidikan
Fikri Prastanta: btol?
Fikri Prastanta: ak bg nama
Fikri Prastanta: tp ak bwh ek**********
Fikri Prastanta: boleh je ak forward nama ko kat ubai
***G: ketua bahagian pendidikan akram kan?
Fikri Prastanta: x2
Fikri Prastanta: akram wakil batch
***G: azizi pcm gak?
Fikri Prastanta: azizi?
Fikri Prastanta: xpasti la
***G: ha ok gak
***G: ko bg la nama tu nnti
***G: papehal exam dlu a
The rest of the conversation is deleted due to exam-stress syndrome.
I considered this guy as the type than didn't give a damn about what is not about himself, just because he is from outside of my circle of usual friends, just because he smokes and do stuff I find appalling. Now he offered his time and energy to the body that judged him dirty, that treated him like shit. Well, not THAT bad, but yeah, the word 'dirty' says it all.
I did consider myself to be holier than them once, but not anymore, for a long time, insyaAllah. After some personal experience from the past, I have decided to be more open with people, to treat people that differs than I am the same way I treat everyone else.
I am no better than you are, and you may be better than I am. I have no right to judge you before knowing you, and for that I offer my deepest, most sincere apology (of which I hope you never read my blog LOL).
p/s : to another You, trust is the best thing you can grant your friend. ^_^